26 June 2015

Lets Talk: Modesty!

I think I'm going to start this new little series called 'Lets Talk.' It's not going to be published on a certain schedule, but only when the time strikes me to rant. It's called Lets Talk because I want to have discussions on y'all too about what you think on the matter, so always feel free to leave a comment. :)


Modesty has been a big issue recently in my church youthgroup. The basic rules are: no tanktops and no shorts under five inches short. It's because the church doesn't want the guys looking at the girls and lusting, basically. To start off with, you always have a choice. About everything, but I'm talking about sin here. Nobody can make you sin, thanks to the free will God gave us. Nobody can make you look at a girl and lust over her body, no matter what she's wearing. It's a choice you're actively making. 

Second, putting the responsibility of your sin on somebody else is never ok. Making girls wear certain clothing is only teaching guys to justify their sin. Like ''it's okay I'm looking at her and sexualizing her because her shorts are 3.5 inches long.'' 
Now, look at the sentence above and the one below:
''It's okay I raped her because she was dressed a certain way.''
It's victim blaming both ways. Both sentences are fruit from the same tree.
Don't teach your girls to dress a certain way, teach the boys to control themselves. 

Third, it's insulting to both parties. It's insulting to girls because it's pinning somebody elses sin on them, and making them objects, not humans. It's insulting to the boys because it suggest they're not smart or strong enough to control themselves on their own. It's suggesting they're basically animals, not humans.

Fourth, a person can objectify you no matter what you're wearing. Booty shorts or a burka, it doesn't matter. So you might as well wear your 3.5 inch shorts, because it's pretty darn hot out. 


please leave a comment on your opinion, but be nice and respectful to everybody :)


  1. Madi, you've taken the thoughts right outta my mind. Or, it feels like that. I absolutely, 100% agree with this post.
    It's a conscious choice that guys make, whether to think like that or not. She can be wearing a dress that reaches the floor and long sleeves, or she can be wearing those shorts and a tee- both ways, she'll be a girl. And men can choose to control where their thoughts lead to.

    But anyway. Now that I have had my own mini rant...I'm gonna go. But, as always, I've enjoyed your writing/s. ♥

    1. Thanks for your comment. <3 yes I agree, and its always good to have a lil rant too. :)



Please be nice and respectful to each other.


p.s. you're looking fab today.